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Things Women Should Stop Saying Sorry For

Things Women Should Stop Saying Sorry For

Apologies seem to happen even when you don’t know what you’re apologizing for. The word “sorry’ is probably as popular in our everyday language as “just.” Women especially, throw these words into conversation and they come off as fillers or words used to downplay something else. The word “sorry” rolls off the tongue sometimes. In many cases, you don’t want to come off as rude or bossy so you throw an apology in there to offset the blow. Similarly, we use “just” on an everyday basis and it often belittles what we say without us realizing it. I saw an article (read it here) a few weeks back and decided to make a conscious effort to minimize my usage of the word. Instead of sending a text like: Hey, just checking in to make sure you’re okay.I said the same thing without adding a just: Hey, I’m checking in to make sure you’re okay. As women, our everyday language can say a lot about us even if we are not always aware of the effects these words have. Apologizing in unnecessary situations can make you come off as weak, an easy set-up to get taken advantage of. Once I became aware of what I was doing, I knew this was something a lot of you are probably guilty of as well so we, as a group, can start making these changes to better ourselves.  We’ve all done it but it’s time to stop saying sorry for little things that don’t warrant an apology.

Appearances
I’ve lost count of how many snapchat stories I’ve watched that included an apology for “looking a hot mess.” Why are you sorry for your natural look? It’s one thing if you feel better with winged eyeliner and a bold lip but don’t feel bad because you just woke up or had to rush out to work this morning.

Lifestyle Choices
Aside from make-up, shaved legs seems to be another one of those things that has turned into everyone else’s business. Your legs belong to you and whether there is hair on them is really no one else’s concern. Yes, people have opinions on what you should do with them but does that really matter? Strut in your jean shorts with velvet legs if you want to and don’t say sorry for it.

Not Being Interested
News flash: No one is entitled to getting your number or taking you out. You dont have to feel bad for declining a date or letting someone know you don’t want to text them. You can say it nicely without apologizing because what are you actually sorry for if you’ve done nothing wrong?

Having Emotions
It hurts my heart when I hear someone explaining how she feels then a “Sorry, I don’t know why I’m crying” or something similar comes out her mouth. No no no! You’re crying because you’re upset and overwhelmed. There’s nothing wrong with that so you don’t have to say sorry!

Asking Someone to do their Job

This one’s funny because I do it all the time out of habit. It just sounds nicer to say “I’m sorry, could you help me…” but again, don’t feel the need to apologize if you’re asking someone to do what they get paid for. A simple “excuse me” is a polite way to get his or her attention.

 

Have you noticed yourself throwing out extra apologies? If so, do you see a problem with it? Share with us in the comments!



  • You’re so right! I try to be super cognizant of this. Then I was at a talk last week and I started off my question, “Sorry to backtrack…” I am so grateful the speaker called me out on it!

    • Jovania

      It’s so easy to slip out but I’m happy she helped you notice it! I think we should be less afraid to call each other out so eventually we’ll all be well aware of it.

  • I’m such a sorry sayer! I’m working a lot on my confidence in that area. Great post! Would love to have you link with us at 100 Happy Days! http://www.akreativewhim.com/100-happy-days-12

    • Jovania

      I’m glad you’re working on it, good luck! Thanks, I will check it out.

  • I have one friend whose middle name should be Sorry as she says it so much. I have to tell her to cut it out all the time.

    • Jovania

      It’s a good thing she has you around to help!

  • I think I apologize more in the social working world but not so much online and I certainly don’t say it at home with my family. I do agree with you but how it’s said alot but never really thought about why people were saying it when they did. Good observation.

    • Jovania

      It’s great that you’re conscious of when you say it most. And thanks!

  • Hil

    I’m Canadian, I fall under the stereotypical over-apologizer. So much that while in labour I apologized after every contraction when I couldn’t get the baby out and/or wasn’t pushing correctly. My mom finally told me to STOP apologizing as I was in labour and doing exactly what I was supposed to.

    I think it’s more a social courtesy? Kind of like an excuse me? I agree totally overused though and I am going to pay attention to see how often I say it now

    I would love it if you came to link up at our party:

    http://www.raisingfairiesandknights.com/category/bloggers-spotlight/

    It’s a link party and pin-up party, two parties in one! All posts will get pinned to our group pinterest board.

    • Jovania

      Lol go mom for being there to remind you! And thanks, I’ll definitely check it out!!